bossy happy people


this one is for connie. (who is not one of these people at all.)

i dont like the bossy happy people that have sprouted up. they dont just want everyone to be happy– they demand it. and if they cant demand youre happy, they demand you act like youre happy. or just go away.

but really, f*** that. mandatory positivity isnt just fascist, its mediocre.

in the old days, well-meaning people tried to cheer you up. they werent pushy about it, they didnt feel entitled to you putting a happy face on for them. (well, maybe your parents did. your friends didnt.) they might offer you a hug, or do some other nice thing for you. thats real charity– you dont owe them anything in return. you dont have to feel better if you dont.

this new happiness offers so little. it just demands people put on a show. this is a new sort of entitlement that has crept into popular culture during my lifetime, though perhaps some people felt it in the 70s and 80s. it even reminds me a little of certain cults that require people to either be happy, or pretend to be. some of it i believe can be traced directly to cults.

but whats different about it is that you used to be able to leave that sort of thing just by walking away from whatever group of people really believed that crap. and now, its like they arent in their own little groups and subcultures anymore. theyve gone mainstream, thats the real change. theyre everywhere. there could be bossy happy people right around the corner, lurking!

you know what? im not offended by your smile. if its real, let it shine. if its fake, i want to get away. if you expect me to fake it just so i can stand here, why dont YOU go away? but have yourself a *lovely* little day.



4 thoughts on “bossy happy people

    1. thanks so much. the truth is, this is a topic ive spent a lot of time thinking about over the years. im just as glad as you are that “its not just me.”

      also, i was alive briefly in the 1970s, and (obviously then) all of the 80s. this thing wasnt mainstream in the 80s, or the 90s. but i still dont know exactly when it got quite this silly and out of hand. its probably too late to pick this as a thesis, but you know, you can study it out of school if you like. (just be careful, theres a lot of it around.) i like being happy, i really do– but i want to still be able to relate to and appreciate people that arent, so when im not happy, i have people i care about that i can talk to.

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  1. Truth! Preach, bro πŸ˜πŸ‘πŸΌπŸ’–. I wonder why some people feel the need to be bossy about being positive? It’s almost as though, deep down, these people aren’t truly happy; if they were, why would they insist upon everyone else being happy? It’s almost like they’re mandating that everyone around them be happy in order to lift them up out of what might actually be unhappiness underneath. Just my theoryπŸ˜‰. Brilliant post πŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ’πŸ’“

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